The heartstrings, known as tendons, inside the human heart are fragile. So delicate, that they may break after a deep emotional trauma, causing the heart to lose form. As a result, the heart will then be unable to pump blood effectively. Yes, you can literally and painfully, die from a broken heart.
What are the leading causes of heartbreak? What do we associate the heart with? The heart is known for the part of the body that holds and understands the emotion of love; it is viewed as the essential organ that gives an individual the capacity to show positive affection. Because this organ is literally vital to our existence, there is no wonder why the “breaking” of it is such a major concept. While there may be multiple causes to a broken heart, I would like to focus on one here for the brevity of this article. That cause, that source of pain, and often-unfathomable depression is none other than, a soul-tie.
A soul tie is an emotional attachment and association, caused by a sexually immoral act. To be put bluntly, sex before marriage leaves a strong soul tie. However, You will notice that once couples become married, sexual connotation changes. For example, we start to reference married couples as soul mates and consider sexual relationships to be natural and even beautiful.
In my past, I engaged in non- marital sex to the point that I felt like I needed it. Sex was as important to me as water and sleep. After a few days without sexual interaction, I would become irritable and frustrated. I told myself I had to have it. After all, I was a man and a man NEEDS sex (at least that was the reasoning I gave myself). No, I wasn’t a sex addict. I just developed an intense longing for something I should not have ever allowed to become my normal.
So what lead me to have such strong desires and passions, what caused me to crave women so deeply? I eventually realized it was my flesh responding to the sin I was infecting it with, more so, it was the absence of God in my life. Sin is defined as an act that separates you from God. Just like the heart, my connection (tendons), were being broken and destroyed, which was causing me to lose form and experience pain. Eventually the sex wasn’t enough, and after sinning so much, I felt guilty and unworthy to call Him my God.
Every time we have sex outside of marriage, we are connecting our souls to those individuals. To my knowledge, no one has created a contraceptive yet that can protect your soul! I began to realize that I was causing heartache in every woman I fornicated with because I was pulling at her heartstrings with every stroke.
Think about the last person you had sex with; do you really trust them with your soul? Your soul is all that will be left when your days on this earth are through. Jesus shed blood to save your SOUL!! What does giving such an important piece of yourself up so easily say about your worth? Remember we were brought at an expensive price.
Each time we fornicate, we transfer parts of our spirits into one another. God did not create sex for simple pleasure. When a man enters a woman, they become one flesh. However, the Bible tells us that becoming one is to be reserved for the sanctity of marriage. I understand that this piece may be hypocritical and conflict with the practices of those that read it. I am simply a man that has experienced a separation from God, but never went through with the divorce. I am a man that has sinned and broken many hearts. I am a man that created soul ties with women he can’t remember.
I understand that in order to find your mate, and be well for them, you must admit some hard truths, and make some tough decisions within your self. I had to pray for the women that I hurt, repent, and even forgive myself. If your heart is broken, God can heal it. Psalms 73:26 says, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” God is all you need to be made whole. No man or woman can complete you, only God can. I know its difficult to conquer the flesh at times, but if you will welcome in God’s spirit, it will change your heart forever. I am undeserving of my wife, but I thank God for counting me faithful not to break another heart again.
Neither of us are perfect, and neither of us met each other as virgins. We made the choice to acknowledge our mistakes and make a change; we made the choice to abstain. I hope this entry reminds you of your worth, and encourages you to protect your soul! Remember your decisions can force you to carry someone else’s spirit; is that really another weight you are prepared to handle?
Psalms 38:9-16 Message Bible
“Lord, my longings are sitting in plain sight, my groans an old story to you. My heart’s about to break; I’m a burned-out case. Cataracts blind me to God and good; old friends avoid me like the plague. My cousins never visit, my neighbors stab me in the back. My competitors blacken my name, devoutly they pray for my ruin.
But I’m deaf and mute to it all, ears shut, mouth shut. I don’t hear a word they say, don’t speak a word in response. What I do, God, is wait for you, wait for my Lord, my God—you will answer! I wait and pray so they won’t laugh me off, won’t smugly strut off when I stumble.